Oh my gosh, what great memories I have about Christmas past! From my childhood to my kids’ earliest years, which meant hours and hours of gift wrapping, and baking cookies for Santa; until today with two pre-teen grandchildren living in the U.K. and the newest one celebrating her first big Christmas here with us. I went from non-stop decorating, huge holiday party planning, gift buying and cooking to asking myself: “Is all of this really necessary at my age?” And to be honest, I and all of my holiday-fanatic friends, agree upon something powerful: Christmas isn’t about performing, it’s all about connecting and taking the steps to ensure more meaningful holidays that friends and family will never forget.

I’ve been thinking about it all year, and I’ve finally made the gut-wrenching decision to pare down the number of gifts, trees, and decorations and focus my efforts on creating a holiday full of activities that I hope will provide truly meaningful memories that my children and grandchildren will cherish forever.

Below are the seven steps I’m taking this year. Perhaps you’ll find some inspiration to also create more meaningful holidays for your loved ones.

#1 – SIMPLIFY – BECAUSE STRESS IS SO LAST SEASON AND PERFECTION IS OVERRATED

First of all, if there’s one lesson that life after 50 has taught me is that less really is more. If my home this year only has two trees (still too much, but I’m getting there), just a wreath on the door (my husband will be deliriously happy to hear this!) and a simple meal, then so be it. I’ve truly accepted (though it wasn’t easy, trust me) that the holidays don’t need to be over-the-top to be meaningful.

#2- MANAGE THE EXPECTATIONS

Forget “Pinterest Perfect.” You’ve earned the right to do the holidays your way. Want to serve take-out on china plates? That’s called “fusion cuisine.” Prefer gift cards over guessing sizes? Brilliant. You’re not lazy, you’re efficient.

If your decorations aren’t symmetrical this year, just consider it “artistic expression.”

If your tree leans a little, call it “organic charm.”

#3 – SIMPLIFY THE GIFTS

Remember when you spent hours wrapping presents that were torn open in five seconds? Now’s the time to reclaim those hours.

Try these meaningful but simple alternatives:

Experience gifts (concert tickets, spa days, local classes)
Charitable donations in someone’s name
Homemade goodies in recycled jars with pretty ribbons

And remember how much people will benefit when you volunteer; donate; or give the gift of an experience rather than a physical object.

#4 – SIMPLIFY THE SCHEDULE

Here’s a radical thought: you don’t have to attend every gathering. Practice saying, “I’d love to, but my sofa and I already have plans.”

Protect your peace like it’s on sale, because emotional energy is the real holiday currency.

#5 – SAVOR – SLOW DOWN, BREATHE, TASTE, LAUGH

Do you remember the meaningful holidays from childhood? Everything sparkled because we paid attention. Somewhere along the way, we replaced wonder with worry.

This year, savor it. ALL of it.

Savor the Moments

The sound of laughter in the kitchen. The smell of cinnamon rolls that never quite come out evenly baked. The feeling of cozy socks and gratitude at the same time.

Create pockets of presence . . . those small, intentional pauses where you really take it all in.

Light a candle and sip your coffee before the house wakes up.
Take a walk after dinner instead of diving into dishes.
Watch the twinkle lights with your grandkids or friends and just . . . be.

“Savoring is the art of noticing joy before it rushes past you.”

Savor the Food – Without the Guilt

We all know that calories don’t count on holidays… right? Okay, maybe they do, but I think we’ve also earned the right to enjoy every bite on the table on this special day . . . do you agree?

Have the pie. Toast with champagne. Nibble on the cheese board like the classy woman you are.

Food is memory, and every dish tells a story. Your grandmother’s stuffing, your daughter’s vegan brownies, your own last-minute “I-swear-this-is-a-recipe” charcuterie board, they’re all acts of love.

Savor the People

Here’s the secret no one tells you: the best part of any dinner table isn’t the centerpiece, it’s the conversation and is what makes truly meaningful holidays full of laughter and love.

Ask your family to share a favorite holiday memory or a new tradition they’d like to start. Laugh at the old stories. Let the kids teach you TikTok dances (and call it cardio).

Connection is the real dessert – though it pairs nicely with chocolate.

#6 -REMEMBER TO CELEBRATE THE WAY YOU WANT TO

You’ve earned the right to design your holidays exactly as you want them. Maybe this year’s celebration looks traditional. Maybe it looks entirely different, a tropical trip, a quiet weekend, or a gathering of chosen family.

Celebrate by Letting Go

Let go of “should.” Should decorate more. Should cook everything from scratch. Should invite everyone.

Nope. You are now the CEO of your peace and joy. Delegate tasks, order the pie, or skip the gift exchange if it brings you more stress than sparkle.

At this stage of life, we don’t do burnout, we do boundaries. The goal isn’t to impress. It’s to enjoy.

Celebrate the Little Things

Big moments are lovely, but it’s the small ones that fill the heart:

The first sip of coffee on a frosty morning.
The phone call from an old friend.
The moment you light candles and realize you have everything you need.

Joy doesn’t hide in grand gestures, it’s woven into the tiny, tender moments of everyday life.

Celebrate Across Generations

If you’re lucky enough to have kids, grandkids, or even “borrowed” family nearby, share your wisdom and laughter, not your stress.

Start new traditions that are easier, lighter, more you:

A “Pajamas & Pancakes” Christmas morning.
A “Friends Who Feel Like Family” Hanukkah dinner.
A “Creativity Night” with crafts, art, or music.

#7 – VALUE THE GIFT OF ENOUGH

Every stage of life brings a new perspective, but after 50, we finally understand that “enough” is the real luxury. Enough laughter. Enough rest. Enough time with people who make us feel seen.

Simplifying isn’t about doing less, it’s about doing what matters most. So, if your holiday looks a little different this year – smaller, quieter, slower – that’s not less joy. That’s more meaning.

And when the noise fades, what remains is love . . . messy, imperfect, beautiful love.

THE AGING OUT LOUD WAY

We, here at Aging Out Loud, realize that the holidays are no longer about proving anything, they’re about feeling everything.

You’ve mastered the art of multitasking, but now it’s time to master the art of meaning. That includes:

Simplify. Ditch the chaos. Keep what counts.
Savor. Taste, laugh, listen, and linger.
Celebrate. Not perfectly, but passionately.

So this year, pour the wine, light the candles, and hum your favorite song. Hug the people who matter, and most importantly, forgive yourself for what doesn’t get done.

And remember: a meaningful holiday isn’t about how much you do, it’s about how deeply you feel. Because when you age out loud, you realize something beautiful and unforgettable.

The season’s magic was never in the perfection. It was always in you.

~~~ If you’ve made the decision to simplify your holiday planning, please share your advice on how you were able to (or plan to) create an easier and more meaningful celebration for you and your family.~~~

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